My friend Amy introduced me to this idea of having a non-sexual life partner. Essentially someone who you are attracted to, but understand that the relationship will only stand through friendship. I think this phenomenon is great and fucked up. I have a non-sexual life partner who means the world to me. We speak almost everyday, we share intimate details of our daily happenings, and we engage in deep conversations about life which probably stemmed from me talking about what I ate for lunch. The thing about non-sexual life partners (NSLPs) is that sometimes you might just wanna freakin' get sexual. Not so much because you are interested in building something with that person, but it serves as protocol. Just to GET IT OUT OF THE WAY. It is almost inevitable, especially when you and your NSLP are both attractive ass people. I have a NSLP that I actually kissed before. It was absolutely fantastic. Its a story you would tell your grandkids. It happened like it happens in movies. Speaking of movies, someone actually filmed it. BUT he and I have come to the resolution that the kiss was less about romance and more about drunken publicity. AND even though he confessed to me that he wasn't that drunk and that I was a great kisser AND I in turn told him that i wouldn't mind if it happened again--
for him, he probably just got blinded by my big ass red shiny lips that night (and felt sorry for me)
and for me, well...I hadn't kissed someone i cared about in a long time. (Mom, dad, cousin, aunt all fit in that category). And so does my NSLP. I won't say he's like my brother, because then that would rule out any possibility of the unpossible being possible. But I'll say he is my family. I am truly honored to have him in my life, and I like being in his. Everyone should have a NSLP. They give you a perspective that is explicit and sometimes harshly true. Just try to find one that is ugly. It will make the whole "being friends" thing a lot easier.
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Hey Kupid whats up its ur cuzin Dwayne, trust mi I like ur writing style and the way you express yourself. You do not sugar coat or mince words which in my estimation a blog should be about. I must agree its hard to keep a platonic relationship with someone who has all the qualities you are looking for in a life partner, especially if he/she is attractive. NSLP'S for me will not work sex always comes up at some point but I am not dead yet so there is a possibility I might find one. Hope you don't mind me commenting..keep doin yah thing.
dwayne! of course i don't mind! I mean, i need someone to read what i write. I'm glad you can relate. We all have those people that we hate to like. lol encourage other people to follow my blog! I need all the support i can get...
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